Kudos to Bathsheba Everdeen (ancestress of Katniss?) in Thomas Hardy’s Far from the Madding Crowd for keeping it real.

 Bathsheba: ‘I wonder why he is so wrapt up and indifferent, and seemingly so far away from all he sees around him.’

Liddy: ‘It is said – but not known for certain – that he met with some bitter disappointment when he was a young man and merry.  A woman jilted him, they say.’

Bathsheba: ‘People always say that – and we know very well women scarcely ever jilt men; ’tis the men who jilt us. I expect it is simply his nature to be so reserved.